A wise man once said, ‘What you think is what you see, what you see is how you act, and, how you act determines what you become’
Conditioning is like a tinted glass through which we are seeing the world, through which we perceive the facts. When the conditioning is growth-oriented, we see opportunities for building new cities in ruins. But, when the conditioning is negative, we look for faults even in the beautifully built cities.
But why are we thinking about conditioning so much?
Understanding the concept of conditioning is important because it impacts the following areas in a person’s life:
The above five qualities do not directly impact any area, but, together they define a person’s personality. A magnetic personality attracts eyes and opportunities. They are responsible for the first impression that a man forms about you in his head. Having a healthy mindset gives you an edge over other people.
Factors that influence the mental conditioning of a person:
Information, you are exposed to
Everyday experience etc.
A few of these factors like the social circle and the information you are exposed to are somewhat in your control. But, there are a few factors that cannot be controlled like childhood events and daily experiences. They keep on bringing in bugs that negatively impact our conditioning, and thereby, our lives. We need to constantly check and kill any such bug being brought in.
Your mind is your safe space and your greatest weapon. Conditioning of your mind determines the condition of your life.
“A winner is someone who recognizes his god-given talents, works his tail off to develop them into skills, and uses those skills to accomplish his goal”- Larry Bird
Your skills are those weapons through which you navigate through life. These skills are again of two types:
General skills- These are the skills that play an important role in the general development of a person. These skills include:
Interpersonal skills – ability to communicate your thoughts and build better relationships
Problem-solving skills – ability to determine why an issue is happening and how to resolve that issue
Adaptability skills– Ability to change actions or approach to doing things in order, to suit a new situation
Leadership skills– ability to take charge and guide people when the situation demands it
Defenseskills– ability to protect yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially at the time of crises
These skills uplift the charisma of a person and the way he feels about himself. When specific skills in two people are the same, these general skills will give you an edge.
Specific skills- These are the skills that are relevant only to you because of your hobbies and career. For example, the skill of doing surgery is only required by a doctor, similarly, certain software skills are only relevant in some fields. This is an area of high competency. Everyone out there is competing with you based on these skills. It is very important to stay up to date if you want to stand a chance in the competition.
Life is a war that we are fighting with our circumstances and our internal conflicts, emotional and otherwise. To win this, we have to keep sharpening our weapons. It is very important to understand and update them from time to time.
We talk about Self awareness and self-development all the time. Every book on growth and mindset talks about self-development.
Self- Development is a conscious process of improving oneself in various aspects of life. The ultimate goal of self-development is to attain your full potential and live a fulfilled, happy life.
Key components of self-development are:
Skill Enhancement– It is a process of picking up new and relevant skills and keep updating the existing skills. For example- a lawyer needs to work on his negotiation skills, a doctor needs to update himself about the new developments in society.
Mental Conditioning– This refers to the information and kind of environment we are exposed to and the way it impacts our perception and daily life actions. This covers aspects like self-confidence, mental strength, self-respect, self-esteem, positive approach, and critical thinking. Despite having the required skills, a person who is not confident and lacks the courage to initiate may not perform well.
Habit creation- Human beings are cognitive misers and therefore, most of the time, we act based on our habits. We do not consciously make all the choices. Therefore, it is very important to cultivate good habits as they guide almost 85% of our daily actions.
Personal development can be understood through these three aspects. We need various weapons to navigate through life but it is important to remember, we are THE WEAPON.
Evaluate yourself based on these three aspects and ask yourself where do you stand?
Let’s go back to our school days. Remember the time when you were truly fascinated by a subject or topic, but, your teachers and parents told you that it has no scope and to focus on your studies? Or, the time when you consistently scored high in one subject but were scolded for not getting good marks in other subjects?
The seed of your problem lies in those moments.
Your focus was shifted from the subject that inspired and excited you to a subject that you were never excited about. I understand that it is important to score decent in all subjects. But, it is equally important to pay special attention to the subjects or topics that inspire you.
So the first question is: What inspires you?
When you closely observe yourself, you will realize that you had some innate talents as a child. For some, it could be being logical or persuasive or, good reflexes. It could be anything. You will find them helping you in some way or the other even now.
Find out, what are your innate talents?
Once you figure out your inspiration and your innate talents, start connecting the dots. In what ways are these two related. List down a few career choices that involve both of them. When your daily work motivates you and consumes your innate talent, it gives your existence meaning and fills you with immeasurable peace and happiness.
Once you find out the suitable career choices for your personality, find out: What skills are required to overcome the obstacles between you and your passion?
Update yourself every day about the latest developments in your chosen field. Strive to make yourself the best in this field.
The answer for all your troubles lies within you. Blow off the dust and open the book of your life.
I am sure, most of us have been taught this in the school. It has been made very clear to us that attaining knowledge is very crucial for a person who wants to succeed. But, rarely people talk about what to know.
World is an ocean of information. If you don’t learn how to swim through it, you will drown.
Our conscious mind is like a utensil that can only hold some part of this ocean of knowledge. The old data that we don’t use one daily basis or, that we don’t consider important, is sent to the subconscious mind. This is why we don’t remember what we ate five years ago or, the lessons we learnt in fifth class.
Knowledge is of two types:
General Knowledge is what should be known to each and every human being. These are the things that should be taught by every school to every student. In my opinion, there are five things a person should know:
General Awareness- Laws of the country, your rights, current social issues etc.
A person should be up to date in all these aspects.
Specific Knowledge- These are related to your career choices and your hobbies. You have to stay up to date about the latest developments.
Your mind is a very sacred place and a very powerful weapon. Don’t crowd it with the junk that you will never need in life. Use it wisely and respect it.