Positivity

The world treats everybody differently. It is kind towards one section of society and insanely brutal towards the other. Not everybody is offered the same level of opportunities. This is the harsh truth beyond our control. But we all are blessed with extraordinary power. That makes us deal with all the misfortunes. This power is called the ‘Power of Positivity’.


Positivity is the energy within us which makes us see the positive aspects of the situation. Every situation has a positive and a negative side. The positive side paves way for further growth and the negative side pose challenges which when overcome makes you capable of walking on the respective path of growth. Unfortunately, most of us focus on the negative side, thereby stop growing and become stagnant. This is because we lack positivity. A positive person would instead focus on the positive aspects of even the worst possible situations and cling on to them. They would consider the problem as a challenge rather than a restriction. These are the people that succeed and become an inspiration to other people.


The Chain of Positivity and Negativity
When a person is treated in a way that makes them feel negative, it disturbs and frustrates them. They tend to get angry, irritated, and at times distressed. Many of us start playing blame games, get into a state of denial, and end up forming a negative perspective about life and society. As a result, we start giving out negatives vibes and ourselves get trapped in a cloud of negativity. This is exactly how a tainted window works. The person observing the world through a tainted window will see the taint in every image he sees. For such people life becomes hell. Unfortunately, this problem is contagious.

A negative person interacts with society in a negative way sending out negative vibes. Eventually, it starts influencing the people surrounding him. And thereon starts a chain of negativity that spreads in the society like a viral. Eventually, it starts influencing the well being of society.
But guess what! so is the case with positivity. A positive person is equally capable of influencing people and uplifting society.

It is just a matter of decision. A decision that will just take a second. Ask yourself whether you want to be an ‘asset’ or a liability to society. You can contribute to your personal growth and the welfare of society by sowing the seeds of positive thoughts within you. However little may it seem, it is the beginning of a happy and healthy society.

Requirements of the Self

The human system is composed of three components: mind, heart, and soul. The mind perceives and deals with the analytical aspects, the heart deals with emotions and the soul manages the two. In this ever-changing world, these three components evolve continuously but at a different pace. The system receives all kinds of information, some necessary and some unnecessary, some are good and some are bad for the system. This article deals with the ways one is supposed to deal with these components.


Mind, as we all know feeds on the information it receives in the form of facts and influences. These influences further affect our emotions. From the ocean of information, we should choose wisely, what kind of information we really need. Not all the information available in the world be targeted. This merely clutters the mind and is of no use to you. Though we don’t have full control over the information we get, we should have control over the impact it makes on us. Every piece of information has two sides from the perspective of the individual receiving it- positive side and negative side. Emphasizing on the positive aspect while considering the negative side as a mere challenge and not restriction paves way for growth, whereas complaining about the problems, makes you negative. This is the point in the life of a person that makes or breaks him. Only people, who can manage to do this, can have a sorted mind and thereby, be more productive.
The world around us moves at a higher pace compared to the world inside us. To maintain balance, we tend to analyze everything and ignore our feelings. The key to a healthy heart is feeling and expressing the emotions that erupt in it due to the mind’s perception. Not always is it possible to express the emotions at that very moment, but one has to let go of these emotions as soon as possible. Otherwise, they will be backed up within us and manifest themselves in the form of frustration and irritation at later stages. By then we would have forgotten their real cause would be incapable of doing anything about it. They will reduce our productivity and disturb our peace of mind.


Remember, we work hard to live a happy and satisfactory life. In the end, if we are not happy, no amount of external success makes any sense.
The last component soul is the entity that owns the human system that uses mind and heart as it’s resources to understand the external world. Nothing much can be said, the soul can only be realized when spirituality is explored in depth. All that the soul wants is permanent satisfaction. This satisfaction is mainly achieved when you do the things that feel right to you. Selfless and good activities like serving others, helping the needy, being polite, speaking the truth, etc. generate an enormous amount of satisfaction. After all real happiness lies in being satisfied with who you are.


One needs to accept themselves the way they are and work towards building a better self by feeding the mind, heart, and soul in the right way. These are your weapons and only a healthy weapon can ensure success in life.

Understanding human system

In the race of moving forward, we keep on interpreting the world around us and hardly look inside. The same situations are perceived and reacted to in different ways by different people.
But where does this difference lie?


We have always perceived ourselves as individuals but in reality, we are a combination of three components: mind, heart, and soul.
The mind is the component responsible for perceiving and analyzing every situation. It is the component that stays in regular contact with the external world. It constantly stays under an influence and is responsible for adapting and reacting to various situations. It is more like an extrovert friend of yours.
Heart, on the contrary, is the component of yours, which is just meant to feel emotions. It reacts to the situations perceived by the mind by generating an emotional response within you. The type of emotional response generated within you depends mainly on two factors: your personality and the image of the situation perceived by the mind. The above two factors are connected by a web and constantly influence each other.
The personality of a person is constantly influenced by emotions and mind. The mind is influenced by emotions and personality. It perceives the entire world around it based on these influences. As a consequence of this relation, every episode in the life of a person and every piece of information received by him shapes his future thought process and course of action.

Human System

As long as the web is in balance, everything seems fine. The problems arise when this web loses balance.
The mind is the component of yours that is in constant contact with the external world. It perceives and responds to the situations at a fast pace. But the heart reacts at a comparatively slower rate. The impressions left on the heart due to the influence of the mind lasts for a longer period than the situation itself. To be in line with the fast-moving world, we start ignoring our emotions for many situations and these emotions pile up over some time. As a result, the web loses its balance. This portrays itself as frustration and a sense of control being lost in one’s life. To deal with such situations, you have to start taking control of yourself. You have to decide when to suppress and when to express emotions.


It is important to understand that you are the boss of ‘You’. It might not always be possible to express your emotions but sooner or later they have to be let out. You are responsible for keeping your mental health in a clean and healthy state to achieve your highest potential.
After all, a healthy mind and a healthy heart lead a person to the road of real happiness.

Be your own Savior

Growing up we are always told the importance of being in good terms with people around us. We start identifying people like family, friends, and society. The crowd around us starts making us feel happy and secured. Everything feels good.

But one day suddenly, life shows you some unexpected colours. Colours that start fading your life and that make your heart blind. All that is left behind is a bunch of broken pieces that prick and bleed your heart every time you look back. You start looking for comfort in the crowd you assembled your entire life. It definitely manages to distract you from your problems and you move on with an unknown emptiness within you hoping that things will be alright again. Also, there are times when you don’t feel connected to the people around you. You crave for somebody to feel your silence. But in this era of rush, it appears a bit too much to ask for.

Tired and frustrated, you start looking for that one person who could feel the emptiness within you. A person who would never say a word and just stand by you, hold your hand and lend their shoulders to cry on. A person who would be there to gather the pieces of your broken heart. Time passes by and so do the people in your life. Your life changes every second and with that change your requirements, choices, and perspectives but one thing remains- it is you and your emptiness.

Eventually, you realise that all your struggles are internal and only you can solve them. Maturity lies in realising that you are the only person responsible for making yourself feel better. You are the sole author of your story. Life will keep on throwing problems at you one after the other, but you have to stand up against them. Deriving emotional support from your good wishers once in a while is fine but expecting somebody to always be there to understand and solve your problems, paralysis your emotional strength. You start finding yourself incapable of even standing up against the minor problems by yourself. You become overpowered by the negativeness within you.

It is important to realise that you know yourself the best. You are the only person who is aware of your strength, weakness, thought process and feelings. If you learn to channelise your emotions to use them in your favour, you can do wonders and achieve anything you want
It is well said ‘God helps those, who help themselves’. Nobody can help you if you don’t stand by yourself. You are your own savior.

Fear and Pain

“Karmanye Vadhikaraste Ma Phaleshu Kada Chana” – (Bhagavad Gita)


This is a very famous shloka from Bhagavad Gita, a scripture which is of great importance in Hinduism. It states that you have control over the actions and not on the result. Therefore, you should never be attached to the results. It delivers a message which is relevant even five thousand years later.
Since childhood, we have been shown various colors of life by movies and stories. These paint multiple pictures of varied aspects of life: love, relations, and success. Based on these and other influences experienced, we start building up many expectations regarding the future. ‘Expectation’ is anticipating the most favorable outcome of our actions. We attach ourselves to our actions and their outcomes to the extent that we start being in denial about other possible outcomes. We forget that we perceive and analyze the situation based on our understanding. For the situations which are beyond our control, or, which involves somebody else, the outcome may be completely different.

Our expectations and attachments pave way for two emotions- fear and pain.

Fear

When we rely on one specific outcome, which is not completely under our control, it generates a sense of ‘fear’ in us – fear of expectations being broken. This sense of fear is more intense when we are not mentally prepared for the other possible outcomes. This means the more one is dependent on a specific outcome, the more intense is the fear generated. This fear eventually impairs our thought process and abilities of decision making.
Sometimes, this fear becomes so intense that to safeguard our interest, we start committing stupid mistakes and in some cases, become the reason for failure. When this happens, the emotion that follows is ‘pain’.

Pain

When the situation takes a different turn and the outcome of our actions change, it generates a sense of our heart being broken. This feeling is called pain. When this happens, we start blaming ourselves and the entire world around us. We start feeling that the world is not being fair to us and we did not receive the fruit of our hard work.

But if we take a step back and analyse the situation, we realise that we were always in a psychological state of denial. This blinded us towards other possibilities and aggravated our attachment towards one specific outcome. Based on this weak foundation we started planning our future course of action. But when the situation changed its course, the outcome also changed. Since we were not mentally prepared for such an event, we feel shocked, betrayed and cope up with the situation by playing the classic blame game with the world. This continues as long as we hold onto the state of being in denial. If since the beginning, we had been open to the existence of other possibilities, it would have been easy for us to accept the changes and failures.

It would be wrong to say that one should not have any expectations. Every action is performed with a motive to achieve an outcome. But one has to keep in mind that for situations that are beyond our control, the outcome may not always be the most favourable one. What we have in our hands is the action and not the result. We should focus on our actions but also should be mentally prepared for situations where our actions do not yield the desired results. This thought process makes us free-flowing and also strong enough to stand against all odds in life