Multiple Perspectives

“ Every coin has two sides”, this is something we must have heard several times in our lives. We also come across several instances in our lives, which completely break us apart. Everything falls apart. Things don’t happen according to our plan. We don’t understand what is going on and we start to see everything with a negative mindset. This is a feeling that we all go through at least once in our lifetime.

But what happens next?

Is everything really destroyed? Obviously Not!

Eventually, everything starts coming together. We start understanding the situation better. We pull ourselves together and move ahead. Gradually you realize that you no longer are the same person that you were before the turmoil. You have now evolved into a better person. The problems and the distress faced by you, teach you more valuable lessons than your achievements. You walk out of a problem like a mature and stronger person.

Years later when you look back, you realize that, if you hadn’t been through the problem and if everything would have worked out according to your plan, you would have never evolved. You might have been the same person with limited capabilities. Problems like this are put forth by nature to help you grow. This is the reality that many people don’t understand.

When you want to achieve something and work hard towards it, nature starts preparing you for it. This may be to test your capabilities and also to prepare you for any unforeseen challenges. Nature does this by putting forth many problems. With every problem, your patience, skills and decision-making capabilities are improved and become prepared for the next stage of your life.

Every time life creates problems for you, it offers you two choices- either you can stand there, complaining about your problems or you can use the problems to your advantage and surprise everybody. This is the point that decides whether you will be a success story or not. Here comes the role of multiple perspectives. Given the same situation, different people react differently. In the same situation, some people are more influenced by the positive side and some people are more influenced by the negative side. This further decides whether you utilize the problems to your advantage or stand there complaining about it. It is not the situation which is negative; it is instead your negativity which makes you incapable of seeing any scope of getting over the problem.    

In the choices offered by life, if you chose the first option, you will be stuck up all your life with problems and will complain about every possible person and thing around you. This will gradually make you and your environment negative and you will always be frustrated and in distress. On the contrary, if you chose the second option, you will become the protagonist of one of the most amazing success stories. You will become the inspiration for other people.

This is the reality of life. What you become is entirely in your hands. No problem is strong enough to bring down a positive mindset and no achievement is strong enough to lift a negative mindset. Your mindset is a consequence of your perspective of the situation. Just remember, if a situation has a negative, it must have a positive side as well. This is a rule that nature never breaks. All you need to do is look for the positive side to develop a positive mindset and walk out of the problem as an inspiration.“ You are the tool and the energy, and the sole decider of your destiny”. 

Self Respect and Ego

Ego and Self -Respect are two very important terms to understand. We see many people using it in their daily conversations in a very confused fashion. Many of our actions and decisions are completely based on these two factors. Most of our relations greatly depend on our ego and self respect. Therefore, it is really important to understand these two terms:

Self -Respect

We generally understand ‘Self- Respect’ as the way the other person perceives us. If somebody mistreats us, we tend to consider it as an attack on our self respect and thereon, our ‘ego’ takes control and influences all our decisions regarding the subject.

Self- Respect is basically, ‘the respect of oneself’ or, more precisely, ‘respecting oneself ’. People perceive the world according to their understanding and the type of influences they have been through throughout their lives. This is how they will perceive you no matter who you are. Therefore, their judgements are irrelevant to your ‘self- respect’. Your self -respect is how you perceive yourself. It is merely realising that you are the person who knows yourself the best and only your judgement matters. You have to live up to your expectations. You have to become the personality that you could respect. You have to disregard all the appreciations until you respect your actions, and the criticism, as long as you respect yourself. It is very natural to be overwhelmed by the appreciations and criticism. But they are just ‘opinions’ of certain people who are analysing your situation from their perspective, or, it may also be a false expression by somebody trying to manipulate you.

It is very simple.

If the entire world around you is appreciating you, but you don’t feel satisfied with your actions that is when you have lost your self- respect. But if the entire world around is criticising you but knowing the exact situation and struggles, you feel satisfied with your actions, you have managed to save your self- respect.

But remember, if you respect yourself after analysing the entire situation, the reasons for success and failure and use this analysis to evolve further in a positive direction, only then it is safeguarding your self- respect. Being ignorant of the situation and blindly believing that you are an ideal person is just being in denial. This only gives rise to the ego. Here we come across another term frequently used in our day to day life.

Ego

‘Ego’ is the negative side of ‘self- respect’ ,or, precisely the darker side of self respect, which develops eventually when you blindly respect yourself being ignorant of the situation. It is a state of being where you cannot see or accept any situation which is against you. Where on one hand, ‘self respect’ promotes growth and evolution, on the other hand ‘ego’ hinders growth and keeps you static.

Why is ego an issue?   

When your ‘ego’ takes control of yourself, it first conquers your mind. All the decisions taken henceforth are to pamper your ego. Your mind has no clue nor will it ever get. This works exactly how a country is colonised. In this case, your mind is colonised by your ego. You always feel it is in your favour but it really isn’t. Your heart is subdued by your ego. Thereon all your actions and thoughts are dedicated to pampering your ego. What you really feel or think doesn’t matter anymore. Eventually, your capabilities of thinking and analysing are infected. You become incapable of analysing any situation and accepting any failure. You tend to make the wrong decision just to fulfil your ego. These wrong decisions further create problems for you and you being egoistic stay ignorant of the entire situation. Thereon starts a journey of self- destruction.

If you work on your self- respect, it will take you on the path of growth and if you let your ego enslave your mind and heart, it will take you towards self- destruction. The external factors have no role to play in your success and failures. External factors just act as obstacles. It may make you trip and fall. Either you can use your mistakes to evolve further or stand there complaining and justifying your failures. The decisions you make decide your fate. Right decisions promote growth and wrong decisions lead to destruction.  

Self Realisation- Three Faces of a Person


How do you define yourself? Who are you?, This is the basis of our identity, our actions and the way we react to different circumstances in life.

The moment you get into the depth of this question, you see the entire world around you changing gradually. With a greater depth comes the realisation that, “the troubles you faced throughout your life were never an external factor.” It was always you.

Your ignorance of yourself is the real problem and the conflict inside you has become so over powering that it makes you look for a reason in the external world. As a consequence of your ignorance, you tend to use the external world as a tool to justify the conflict within you. But it’s high time now !!

Majority of us feel that they have 2 faces. The first face is governed by mind and is a product of worldly influences. Our personality is greatly influenced by our family, friends, values, culture, lifestyle and circumstances. These factors influence the way we perceive different situations and react to them. The Second face is also governed by our mind but may or may not be different from our first face. This is what we willingly express through our actions. This is basically a filtered output of the first face. Some of us have this and some of us don’t. This does’nt make us good or bad, it’s just the way we are.

Now comes the missing link. While understanding ourselves, we just consider the external influences and it’s consequences. We completely forget about the base nature where on which these external influences act.

Our entire life had been revolving around two false faces, both of them being a consequence of the external influences. Unfortunately, these external factors have to a great extent hampered the way we think about ourselves. This is the real problem. We know the world we are dealing with but we hardly know anything about the weapons we have : body, mind and the soul. As a result of this ignorance we utilise our resources ineffectively and always complain about the world being partial and unfair. In reality, the world is not partial, it is just that the other person is utilising his weapons in the way they are meant to be.

The third face of a person is the purest form. It is the most genuine form and free of all negativism. When understood completely, it can be your most powerful weapon. The Hindu scriptures define this as ” Jiv Atma”. The true powers of “Jiv Atma” cannot be explained in words and can only be realised over a period of time with constant effort and meditation. All that can be said now is that this ” Jiv Atma ” knows no boundaries and can achieve all that it wants.

The most amazing thing is that the nature of this third face is same for all. These three faces interact with each other to form ‘ You’.

The interaction of these three faces is very simple. For example, consider water, when you add sugar, it becomes sweet and when you add salt, it becomes saline. It will automatically take on a new colour when mixed with some other substance. The same substance- water, under different influences produce different results. The entire spiritual journey is about realising that your real nature is neither sweet nor saline, it is like water- tasteless and clear.

The third face is constantly influenced by the external world. Under these influences, your third face in a very short time develops a face – the personality known to you. This face is consciously filtered further to develop a face that you present in front of the world. When you completely understand the interplay of these three faces, you will be able to alter your personality to your advantage and avoid the negativeness.

This is the very first step towards your growth spiritual or otherwise.